LADIES MAKE SURE YOU SPEAK UP!!!! EVERYONE SHOULD READ THIS!

Hello! So what do I mean by “always make sure you speak up”……

I mean don’t accept unacceptable or inappropriate behavior from others while at an adult event of any nature or size…. do read

I make sure I go over the rules of etiquette with single males(and this is just not pertaining to them) when they enter one of my parties. So I know they and everyone knows the rules and in case something happens where someone breaks or bends them the “line in the sand” has already been drawn. Fair warning has already been issued so if they are reprimanded, up to and including banishment from the event or future events too, they can’t play dumb and use the arguement that they didn’t know what they did was wrong…..

Sometimes offenders don’t get caught and do get away with breaking the rules because we fail to report the incident….. For whatever reason you may have, I get it. You may not want to “cause a scene…”. You don’t like ratting on someone, you don’t want to be a snitch…. The “offending party” is a popular person in the lifestyle and you don’t want any backlash from the situation….

FUCK ALL OF THAT

I don’t care if it’s Idris Elba who breaks the no means no policy I have at events. NO MEANS NO!

Ladies and gents if you tell someone you are “not interested” or “not now” or “you’re done for the night” that should be respected. If someone ever says or does anything disrespectful to you because of that it should not be tolerated and you should let me or whoever the party host is know immediately so we can handle the situation. Being rude to someone because they are not interested in you or at the time doesn’t give you the right to catch an attitude, that’s immature. You’re at an event! They are plenty of fish in the sea and nobody should be that arrogant to act as if you never heard NO before anyway.

Being an adult host for about 8 years now I have had people talk to me, primarily days, weeks or months after they attended an event and told me about small incidents that occured that my have bothered them. I appreciate them feeling comfortable enough to tell me and I am always open to hear what they have to say. I just wish that I was told that someone did or say said that made them uncomfortable the night it happened. Makes it easier to rectify the situation and prevent it from happening again in the future. I NEVER INVOLVE NAMES WHEN HANDLING A SMALL ISSUE THAT HAS BEEN REPORTED TO ME. So don’t worry about that. If it’s a big issue though there is no need to. I’m sure the offender already knows the “parties” involved but at that point it doesn’t make a difference anyway. What happened, happened and now the result of the bad behavior is in my hands and I will handle things properly. 🙂

We all want to have fun and be comfortble when attending events, whether they are lifestyle of not. DON’T BE SELFISH AND MESS THAT UP. Always use your head first before you act or speak to make sure you are doing the right thing and not violating anyone’s right to have space.

WE ALL APPRECIATE THAT!