The Kinsey Institute reports that nearly 30% of adults in the United States experience any sexual behaviour. Some other 20 percent experienced restrictions, and 13 percent were engaged in sticks and flaggers.

• What is BDSM?
BDSM is the acronym for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. Bondage is the act of tying someone up like handcuffing someone to a bed. Because of the Bondage, the dominant person can perform any sexual act they wish to with the Bondage, and he or she is bound to serve them. Bondage often goes hand in hand with discipline. Thus, the submissive is expected to obey the dominant and his or her wishes and act accordingly. Sadism is the act of giving someone pain, and Masochism refers to getting the action and feeling the strain on themselves.

There are many tools designed and many ways designed to get these erotic pain inflicted.

• Setting boundaries
While rushing into such acts may seem appealing, doing proper research can help you get ultimate pleasure. It is imperative to talk about it with your partner and to get to know what the other person likes and not. BDSM has its language, which can be overwhelming, but setting up safe words can help you retain going overboard with it. Some safewords are, “mercy”, “red”, “banana”, etc.

• The Dominatrix
The dominatrix is the woman who likes to be dominant in the sexual relationship. She is often called the mistress of the relationship. She loves to take the lead, and it makes her partner the submissive.

• Terminologies in BDSM
Dom, Top, Switch, Sub, Master or Mistress is the few terminologies in BDSM that are often used interchangeably. Dom refers to the dominant partner in the sex or relationship. Switch refers to the ones who like to switch between the dom and sub.

• How to make the best of BDSM
Knowing about the partners’ hard limit help both the partner enjoys the act. Hard limit is referred to the act that the sub cannot tolerate at any circumstances. Similarly, the soft limit is an act which the sub can enjoy and endure.

• Why people enjoy BDSM?
Even the most exciting couples can feel sex as stale sometimes. BDSM adds an exciting new horizon to the sex and makes you feel a whole another experience. It often feels like a trance-like phase and provides a new horizon to the sex. Doms feel tighter getting to command other persons, and subs often feel more secured under the control of the Dom.

• How to start?
It is much smarter to start lighter and working your way up. Beginning with some handcuffs and feather ticklers is sufficient, and as you feel more comfortable, add more toys to your collection. Understanding is the crucial element here. Understanding the needs of your partner and the liking, pain, and fantasy can be more lucid and pleasurable with BDSM ones you know how to act with and ace it.